As detailed in the series on the Five Fundamental Skills for Effective Negotiation, Communication, while last, is probably one of the hardest skills to learn. It takes a lifetime to really master communication: from linguistics to listening to understanding different peoples’ communication styles. And none perhaps is more fraught with danger (at least for men) than understanding what women try to tell them.
Sure, this can sound humorous. But it’s also true. The following example illustrates part of the issue:
A married couple was in a car when the wife turned to her husband and asked, “Would you like to stop for a coffee?”
“No, thanks,” he answered truthfully. So they didn’t stop.
The result? The wife, who had indeed wanted to stop, became annoyed because she felt her preference had not been considered. The husband, seeing his wife was angry, became frustrated. Why didn’t she just say what she wanted?
Unfortunately, he failed to see that his wife was asking the question not to get an instant decision, but to begin a negotiation. And the woman didn’t realize that when her husband said no, he was just expressing his preference, not making a ruling. When a man and woman interpret the same interchange in such conflicting ways, it’s no wonder they can find themselves leveling angry charges of selfishness and obstinacy at each other.
Read the rest of this great explanation here: http://www.h2limousine.com/women-vs-men.php